|re·sil·ience // (r-zlyns)
n. 1. The ability to recover quickly from illness, change, or misfortune; buoyancy.
2. The property of a material that enables it to resume its original shape or position after being bent, stretched, or compressed; elasticity.
// (The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language)
When you look back at your childhood, do you experience happy memories or sadness? Do you focus more on the wounds of the past or the joys of experiences you had? The answers to these questions are very important to determining just how resilient you are. How strong are your beliefs that you can and will overcome obstacles and succeed? Research indicates that individuals with open wounds from the past tend to have more difficulty believing they can accomplish their goals. It is as if they are chained to the past, held back by powerful emotional cords. These cords consist of lies attached to the events of the past. Your own past and the stories you inherited from your family. These lies are misperceptions and misunderstandings and outright falsehoods about what really happened, your personal value, your ability to succeed, what others think, and what you believe about yourself.
Resilience, as defined by the American Heritage Dictionary, is the ability to recover and even return to the original shape. You can overcome the wounds of the past and “bounce back”. And rather than returning to your original state, I believe you will become stronger, clearer and possess a message that will likely become part of your purpose and passion. It will take some work. It will mean going back and remembering the painful events of the past, but this time armed with tools that clean and cauterize the wound so you can heal. Once you have completed the work of healing the past, you will be ready and able to move forward into the future. You will experience freedom from shame and grief and find a lightness that enables you to soar over obstacles in your path. Limiting beliefs about who you are and what you can do will no longer hold you.